How to know if ur friend is gay
How Do I Serve My Gay Friend?
by D’Ann Davis
“How perform I help my gay friend?” This is a scrutinize we hear constantly in the Living Hope office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world. Twenty years ago not many Christians asked this question, for scant knew any identical gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were unaware to their friend’s struggles. Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as gay or deals with a measure of identical gender attractions. Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of life where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this ask is of utmost importance in clear of the switch of our customs and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly discuss about their issues. So how does one help a gay-identified friend or SGA friend?
The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question. “Does your friend recognize Jesus?” This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to assist a friend deal with her sexual attractions. This is because there are two different ro
Understanding the Situation
Sexual orientation is a personal matter, and unless your friend explicitly tells you, you can never be 100% sure. However, if you’re wondering whether your friend might be homosexual, either because you suspect they’re struggling with their identity or you think they might acquire feelings for you, it’s significant to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect.
Here are some common signs that might signal your friend is gay and how to navigate the situation without making assumptions or making them uncomfortable.
1. They Avoid Talking About Their Love Life
If your friend dodges conversations about crushes or relationships but is easy talking about every other aspect of their life, it might be because they’re not ready to discuss their sexual orientation.
Examples:
- They change the subject when someone asks about their dating life.
- They rarely mention any romantic interests.
- They seem uncomfortable when discussing relationships with the opposite gender.
This doesn’t necessarily mean they’re gay, some people are just private, but if combined with other signs, it might be a clue.
2. They Show a Strong Interest in LGBTQ+ Topics
If Someone Comes Out to You
Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you sufficiently to be honest and risk losing you as a comrade. It can be complex to know what to say and what to do to be a supportive friend to someone who has “come out” to you. Below are some suggestions you may wish to follow.
- Acknowledge your friend for having the courage to say you. Choosing to reveal you means that they have a great deal of respect and belief for you.
- Don’t judge your friend. If you have strong religious or other beliefs about LGBTIQ communitites, keep them to yourself for now. There will be plenty of time in the future for you to think and talk about your beliefs in soft of your friend’s individuality.
- Respect your friend’s confidentiality. Allow them the integrity to share what they want, when and how they want to.
- Tell your companion that you still protect about them, no matter what. Be the confidant you have always been. The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them.
- Don’t be too serious. Sensitively worded humor may ease the tension you are both probably feeling.
- Ask questions you may have, but understand that your companion
hi, i wanted to start that I never expect my self looking for this specific theme. but I observe that maybe can help you and me.
I have a similar situation with my relationship. My boyfriends gay ally is inLove with him and he doesn’t realize that. there is so many things that make me perceive that.
1 they observe each other once a week to drink in a bar, when they do and fetch drunk, my boyfriends gay friend starts complementing him in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in admire eyes. start making inappropriate joke
2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my partner and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying DOESNT HE Peek LIKE HIM???
3 he told my partner that he heard that i was dating one of his friends a couple of times( guy that I don’t even know). obviously lies.. don’t know what was exactly his intention.
4 he invited my boyfriend first to an island and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my boyfriend didn’t go.
5 he always pays for everything, dinner, uber, all the drink in the bar ( mos
If Someone Comes Out to You
Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you sufficiently to be honest and risk losing you as a comrade. It can be complex to know what to say and what to do to be a supportive friend to someone who has “come out” to you. Below are some suggestions you may wish to follow.
- Acknowledge your friend for having the courage to say you. Choosing to reveal you means that they have a great deal of respect and belief for you.
- Don’t judge your friend. If you have strong religious or other beliefs about LGBTIQ communitites, keep them to yourself for now. There will be plenty of time in the future for you to think and talk about your beliefs in soft of your friend’s individuality.
- Respect your friend’s confidentiality. Allow them the integrity to share what they want, when and how they want to.
- Tell your companion that you still protect about them, no matter what. Be the confidant you have always been. The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them.
- Don’t be too serious. Sensitively worded humor may ease the tension you are both probably feeling.
- Ask questions you may have, but understand that your companion
hi, i wanted to start that I never expect my self looking for this specific theme. but I observe that maybe can help you and me.
I have a similar situation with my relationship. My boyfriends gay ally is inLove with him and he doesn’t realize that. there is so many things that make me perceive that.
1 they observe each other once a week to drink in a bar, when they do and fetch drunk, my boyfriends gay friend starts complementing him in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in admire eyes. start making inappropriate joke
2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my partner and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying DOESNT HE Peek LIKE HIM???
3 he told my partner that he heard that i was dating one of his friends a couple of times( guy that I don’t even know). obviously lies.. don’t know what was exactly his intention.
4 he invited my boyfriend first to an island and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my boyfriend didn’t go.
5 he always pays for everything, dinner, uber, all the drink in the bar ( mos